Falling in love: it is a mystery why we fall in love, it is a mystery how it happens. It is a mystery when it comes. Just as life itself is a gift that comes and goes in its own time; so too, the coming love must be taken as unfathomable gift that cannot be questioned in its ways. When this happens to some people they often try to grasp love and hold it to them. When they feel the spirit of love leaving, they try desperately to reclaim the love that is lost, rather than accepting it for all its mystery. Don't try to give meaning to what has happened. Until you accept its own mysterious ways, you will live in a sea of misery. Accept love for what it was, then move on.  

 

I have learned the hard way. My husband and I met when we were both at a traumatic stage in our lives and we were good for each other. We helped each other cope and get back on track, then we had our wonderful son, then we got married.

Now we have parted because we realise that although we love each other as friends, we are no longer "in love" and may never have been. We have our beautiful child and we will stay connected through him but we can both move on and maybe find other partners to love.

People need to remember that there is a difference between being "in love" and loving someone.  That "in love" feeling never lasts forever but comes and goes with our moods and circumstances.  It's the deep down love that gets us through the rough times and makes us work at our relationships.  Staying together takes work, make no mistake.  Anyone who goes into a relationship expecting that honeymoon feeling to last forever is in for a rude awakening when the real world intrudes.

Love has its own time, its own season and its own reasons for coming and going. You cannot bribe it, coerce it or reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you, but if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover there is nothing you should do. Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life. If you keep your heart open, it will come again.

You all are exactly right... I was so in love with my last boyfriend that I didn't see his flaws like everyone else did. I couldn't see that he was really wrong for me. When the day came that I finally realized it we broke up and I was left with a shell of a heart. To this day I still love him but I'm not IN LOVE with him. He will always have a piece of my heart because he was my first true love. But I've now moved on and am falling in love again with someone new.

Love has no limits!

 I have always had a hard time with this one.  I never really know what my feeling are, I guess I am always in a semi-confused state about if I just really like a person or do actually love them.  I think I love a lot of people who have really hurt me in the past so maybe this has somehting to do with my complex?

I think you can love more than one person, which can be awkward. I once had a terrible time because I had to choose between two guys who I loved equally!

If I'm honest, I don't think I believe in "love" at all. You can really like and respect someone and you can desire them but what on earth is "love"?

Gosh, how can you not believe in something as strong as love? I don't think that you have been lucky enough to fall in love yet or you would know what it's like.

I agree with michelle. There is nothing in this world that feels better than being inlove. I don't know if you will believe it, but falling inlove can really make you feel and look better. Falling inlove makes you healthier too. When you're inlove you care about your overall well being and that includes your health.